The way we speak to children has a big influence on their capacity to learn and listen to us. We are always modeling to children how to act and behave, and how we speak to them falls squarely into this category. The way we talk to our children and others shows how we want them to respond to us. In general, there are three ways for parents to communicate with their children. The first is an aggressive communication approach. These parents frequently shout, put their children down, and use derogatory language.
Their children may react in a variety of ways, including acting out, feeling afraid, shouting back, and disobeying their parents’ commands. The second type of communication that is usually encountered is the passive form of it. These parents speak to their children in delicate, cautious tones, while their youngsters frequently walk all over them. Unfortunately, many parents are so meek that when pushed to their limits, their tone might turn harsh.
Assertiveness is the third and most successful technique for parents to communicate with their children. Firm, constant, clear, positive, warm, and confident communication is assertive communication. Communicating assertively with your children demonstrates to them that their parents know what they’re talking about and that they should pay attention to what they say.
30 tips that help to talk to kids:
- Make a connection before directing
- Speak to the Child
- Kneel or sit at their level.
- Use the name of your child.
- Use kind language and a positive tone
- Include relatable and talkable topics in conversation
- Pose open-ended questions
- Try to make get connected
- Simple conversation is the best
- Give encouragement and compliments
- Take a keen look at the body language of the kid
- Have one-one conversations often
- Normal volume is advised but keep it form
- Teasing out less the small stuff
- Indicate the acceptance
- Give them choices
- Try to know the level of understanding of the child
- Let the child speak, give them time
- Level up the wait-time
- Show seriousness in them and their words
- Share your experience
- Offer or ask for help
- Place yourself in their shoes
- Ask them how they feel and what they want
- Smile at them
- Nod at them
- Keep it calm and compassionate
- Listen more, speak less
- Nagging at a minimum, please!
- Avoid interruptions
- Show love and be patient
Dealing with backchat or talking back
- When you set limits, issue directions, or impose consequences on your child, he or she may respond by talking back. They may, for example, adopt a nasty tone of voice, quarrel, or try to bargain when it is inappropriate.
- You can manage to talk back or backchat positively and lessen the likelihood of it happening in the future. Here are some ideas to consider if your child is talking back to you:
- Respond gently and remind your youngster of any family rules about speaking nicely and treating others with respect.
- If your youngster continues to be impolite, punish him or her. This might range from learning a new language to losing a privilege such as a screen time.
- Avoid giggling or laughing.